In a group discussion in my RCIA class, when asked for what are the difficulties of being a Catholic, various answers were given as below:
- Resisting temptation
- Discussions with non-christian & non-catholic people
- Prayer life
- being Christ like
- love one another
All the above are true, but the first and most important difficulty every catholic faces is the ability to forgive. To know what God wants us to do, watch the below video:
God asks us to forgive our neighbors. Do we really do what God asks us to do? Its easy to forgive strangers than loved ones. Why is it so difficult to forgive our loved ones? Its because of the attachment. The un-forgiveness we have can cause lot of miss-understandings.
One of the question that everyone asks is how many times to forgive? When Peter asks the same question to Jesus, He answered forgive 7 times 77 times. It means just keep on forgiving.
Why should I forgive? To gain peace. Forgiveness and peace are related as per the following graph:
So, the more you forgive, the more peace you gain. God made us to love and to be loved. The love will lead us to a better relationship.
Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free realizing that you are the prisoner
Many times we may say we forgive, but deep down in our heart, we may not truly forgive our loved ones. We are broken because of the un-forgiveness, but we don’t easily realize it. We do have lot of un-forgiveness in our lives. We are hurting ourselves with this un-forgiveness in life.
So, how to make forgiving easier? Jesus said in John 4:19, “We love because he loved us first.” And forgiveness is our choice. People say, “Forgive and Forget.” Many times we say we forgot, but actually we suppress like sweeping under the carpet. True forgiveness is that we need to know what the person did to us, acknowledge it and choose to forgive the person. Forgive the person in hope that the person will be touched by your love.
Read the below bible readings which says that God loves us first:
- Mt 18:23-35
- Lk 7:47
- Col 3:13
When deep injury occurs, We never recover until we forgive.
Forgiveness doesn’t change the past, but it does enlarge the future.
Watch the below video. Reflect on your own life and try to truly forgive others.